Marriage

Developing Effective Communication - continued...
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Make Time
Many times couples say to me that they just don’t have time to develop better communication. Personally, I believe this is just another good sounding excuse. I say this because we all had plenty of time to communicate when we were dating each other; why not now? The problem is not needing more time, but making better use of the time we have. I tell people almost every week, "You will never find the time to communicate, you must make the time to talk to one another." You always make time to do what is most important to you. If you want to see a basketball game don’t you set the time aside to go? Once you’ve made the time, don’t you refuse the other invitations you receive? Likewise, making the time for each other is a similar choice to do something you consider important. The Father made a choice to communicate His love all throughout history by sending His prophets and angels. Ultimately, "in the fullness of time" God sent His Son as a testimony that you were important to Him and so you would know that He truly cared (Gal. 4:4). Therefore, when you choose to make time to communicate, you are demonstrating your desire to love. Communication is, therefore, simply a choice to love.

Are you making this choice to love your mate on a daily basis? Do you take the time to sit down with your spouse and talk about how your day went? If you do, your behavior is telling your partner that he or she is very important to you. If you fail to make time for fellowship you are communicating just the opposite message.

• Are You Willing?
  
• Give Up Your Excuses
  
• Acknowledge Your Failures
  
• Reduce Your Distractions
  
• Dates and Recreation
  
• Prayer Together
  
• Meaningful Content
  
• Be More Encouraging
  
• Make Christ Your Example

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